Every relationship in our lives has the potential to become castles.
Already at the first glance towards each other we lay down the very first brick for the foundation. Everything we do together, everything we say and do to each other has the potential to build higher, stronger, sturdier foundations. Once the foundation is laid, we start building the walls, the roof. We then begin to choose the doors and windows. We decorate it as we like. And as the relationship develops, we may increase the number of rooms, common areas and areas where we can have for ourselves while together. We may start a garden which will be tended to and cherished by us and it may even nourish us.
The construction from a single brick to a majestic castle is demanding.
Every moment together and apart has the potential to build the relationship. When together we lay bricks together, when apart the memories, the feelings, the longing for each other strengthen the foundation and add embellishments to the construction. It keeps the garden alive.
The construction from a single brick to a majestic castle is demanding. It requires effort, time, resilience, learning, permission to fail and time to recover. It also requires time apart where we remember what was and is and, where we dream of what is still to become. We keep the images alive, vivid in us and we build upon them.
But we do fail sometimes, and sometimes we fail miserably. So much so that we become unsure if the whole project is still worthwhile. Some of us may give up, others may work together to fix the failure and keep on building.
Some castles are deemed necessary to keep, others can be left in ruins until nature takes over again and the space becomes available for a new building. Even a necessary castle may not survive the test of time.
Every word we exchange, every moment spent together, every emotion we evoque in each other will affect the quality of the relationship. As every single one is a brick, the quality of the bricks may bring even a necessary castle to its demise.
A castle will always carry the marks of its construction and use, and the marks left after reconstructions will keep and strengthen its structure. But if we more often than not hammer walls and do not fix it, the construction will eventually deteriorate to such a high degree that it will no longer be safe to stay in it. Doing the same to its foundation will result in ruins that will leave us questioning if there is any point in starting over.
To build relationships as castles in potential is to find ourselves in others, and give others what we would give ourselves. It means to create space for authenticity, acceptance, respect and care.
But it all starts within us. To what extent are we building castles within ourselves? What is the quality of our bricks? Are we building and keeping castles or leaving a number of ruins behind?
«The most important message from Spirit to you is: Love your self.«
The Answers Within 
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